Friday, 15 August 2008
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Family Reunion
By The O'Jays
see relatedmy daughters and i had a blast
Even though it involved cleaning their rooms, we got the chance to talk and laugh and bond. They are growing up to be fabulous young women and I pray that we continue to work on our relationship. I don't have a good relationship with my mother and part of it is because of past mistakes and while I understand that people make mistakes (because Lord knows I've made a ton of them), I don't know what her motives are lately. My aunt and I have been talking alot about legacy of family. And how secrets and attitudes get carried from one generation to the next. If you don't know your past, how can you prevent the mistakes of yesteryear from occurring? We have a lot of mystery and secrecy in our family. We also have lots of hierarchy in our family and if someone breaks away from the pecking order, its a problem. For instance, I am the only Muslim in my family and I stick out like a sore thumb (to them anyway). They can not seem to get past my religion and focus on the fact that I am a believer in God (Allah). Oh well, at this point, it is their loss and my gain, as I see it......
Anyway, I am rambling on about my daughters and family to say that I strive hard to not pass on the poison that was passed down to me. I was married for sixteen years; something unheard of in my family. My great grandgrandparents, grandparents, mother and father never sustained a marriage for any number of years. Divorce was commonplace..so how do I show my children that it is healthy to be in a relationship with one you love? Now that my husband has passed on, how will I teach them what a healthy relationship looks like? More to come...stay tuned....
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